Professional Domination and The “Cursed” P4P

"Professional Domination isn't real" "A real Dominant doesn't require payment" "I want to develop a dynamic with you, but I don't believe in tributing."

All the standard troupes.

What makes Professional Topping not real to you? Is it the education (classes, online & in person courses, books, educational conventions) that they've paid to go through? Is it the thousands of dollars worth of fetish gear that they have (that you request in order to be considered an "established player")? Is it their dynamics aren't as "real" and "meaningful" because they are paid to do hard work that they're passionate about instead of just giving out pieces of themselves/their time/ their experience for free?

What is it?

Are Doctors not real because they require payment? Are therapists not real because they require compensation for their time, knowledge and expertise? If you're in a job you love, you have a passion for, you've worked for years to perfect, you've spent thousands on schooling, on equipment to do that job better, do you believe that if you refused to do that job for free, you don't really love that job?

That sounds incredibly silly doesn't it?

Of course there's going to be people who do your job as a hobby, just because they like the process, but again it's a hobby. The hobbiest may not have the same time invested in education, that doesn't mean they're worse, just their knowledge is different. The hobbiest may not have all the equipment because again, it's a hobby, am expensive one at that. The hobbiest may not ever be available to do the job because again, it's a hobby, they have more important things that come first.

Do you see the difference?

"I want to develop a dynamic with you but I don't believe in tributing."
"I, a stranger, want as much access to you as a partner to please me but I'm willing to give nothing in return besides my holes because I prefer a throwaway kink dispenser."

Sounds similar to me.
Why would a experienced player, lifestyle or not, want to engage in any dynamic, scene, session, with a random stranger that is clearly out for their own pleasure? Why would anyone want to put in an extreme amount of effort, time, WORK, for someone who doesn't care for the growth of their partner?

Let's move this to vanilla terms, just in case you need better examples.

You find a girl you REALLY like, she's like everything you want; educated, beautiful, independent. You're just dying to see her, to meet her, to be with her. What do you do? Ask her on a date? Or do you just message her and say "you're an attractive, single woman I like, therefore you should date me." (Yeah there's men like that, but they belong in a dumpster.) Of course, you ask her out. You pay for dinner, you may even buy her flowers to show her your serious. Throughout your relationship, you're buying her that cardigan she's been looking at, you're building her a new bed frame, you're supporting her dreams, in anyway you can. Why? Because she has agreed to give you want you want/need, because you know that she cares for you.

Now why is that difficult in a professional dynamic? You found a professional you think is incredible, smart, gorgeous, independent, messaging her "you do the things I want, give it to me." is again, silly. What do you do? You tribute her, like when you'd buy a girl flowers. Let her know your seriously interested. You give and take with her. Like any other relationship. She gives you the outlet you desperately need, and you support her growth.

Now I already know the comments coming, and as much as I don't care, I'll go ahead and nip them now.

"Well OF girls have ruined it. They're just taking with no give"

• Do better research of the provider you're interested in. Is she educated? Have you seen her Top? Is she verified?
  Or did you approach a vanilla creator/person and hope that you can "turn" them into your top? Did you approach some random girl just because she was hot without taking 5 minutes to research?

"Well FinDom/Professional Topping is unethical"

• Depends on who you ask. You ask a vanilla person about what any fetishist is into and I guarantee at least one person will find at least one of your kinks, as unethical. As long as the top and the bottom are practicing SSC, RACK, and PRICK, then ethics cannot come into question. We are all adults, no one is being FORCED to send their money. They make the choice because they either A. Enjoy doing so or B. Are under the impression that they will receive a good/service.

"Well they're just money-hungry whores"

• Okay and? Are you not hungry for your paycheck every payday? Are you not working in this same capitalist society? Money unfortunately makes the world go 'round. There's people who make a living doing absolutely nothing, so yeah, that professional wants to make a living doing something that they truly love. Which may or may not be being a whore.

"Well I can go to Mary Jo Anne and get it for free, why would I pay you?

• You don't have to pay me. Just like your don't have to see me. That's the wonderful thing about options and choices. You can go to Mary Jo Anne and have an INCREDIBLE time. Truly I want you to go to Mary Jo Anne, because that's what you're looking for, and if that's what Mary Jo is looking for, than your a match made in heaven. Again, no one is forcing you to pay money, just forcing you to change who your approaching.

"Well I want unlimited access to all women without any push back, pay walls, or denial. Women who charge for their services don't give that to me for free when I think I deserve it so I'm going to just throw a fit."

• Get bent.