Female-Led Relationships

This week was such an insane week, with Valentine’s Day, the snow, and general life/work passing through as well. Still, the one positive side is that I was able to celebrate 6 years of being in a fully Female-Led Relationship with my sub “K”. And it’s given me a chance to think about FLRs as a whole truly and how beautiful, beneficial, and incredible they are for those involved.

When I met K, while BDSM, Kink, and Fetish was already well known to me, and he was incredibly open to the experiences I expressed interest in, we were in a vanilla relationship. In fact, we found the first steps into our relationship turning kink-oriented was expressing my submissive side to him, and him embracing the needs and wants I detailed to him. From the time we were 18, until we were about 20, all kinks we focused on were, male-dom/female-sub. While this was beneficial for my inner healing that needed to take place, there was still a part of me that knew this dynamic wasn’t my “end-all-be-all” and I needed more, something different, something powerful for me. I found myself looking into more Female-dom-related kink and fetishes, found myself craving and enjoying the things that I had seen, and desired so much to recreate, to experience these things on my own, in my own relationship.

We’ve all been brainwashed, trained, and nurtured to think that inherently women are supposed to be submissives, the nurturer, the giver, the smaller in every sense. But what we failed to see was the power that these women obtained in this role. Men were useless without their female half. Husbands were unable to make their own meals without their wife packing them, unable to do their own laundry without her doing it for them, and unable to just survive as functional adult humans without this woman in his life. And that right there, made me realize that at the end of the day, no matter how scared, embarrassed, or confused it made men, women were always the ones with the power, or at least were always the ones who could use this power to their advantage.

And so I did. I began taking care of K, cooking, cleaning, satisfying, and then showing him how lost he was without me, and how much he needed ME to take care of HIM. And he found healing here, he found pleasure here, and took to the thought of “I have to do whatever it takes to make sure this woman, who has given me everything I need to succeed, to strive, to grow, has the same, if not more.” K began to do things without my asking; bringing me flowers daily, bringing me breakfast in bed, running my errands, and most importantly, putting my needs (all MY NEEDS) before his own. At this point, I knew I had him.

Now I know some will say “That is a partnership, that the standard".” while you’re right, there’s a different intention placed in this developing dynamic. There is this though of, “I am doing this for my superior because I understand that compared to her, I am less. She provides everything, she heals, she cares, she supports, and unless I prove to be beneficial to her, I am nothing.” Of course, I didn’t tell K this, I didn’t put this thought into his mind, I wanted him to realize it, I wanted him to crave services me so he could feel like he fulfilled his role beyond the standard “provider” he was trained to be before we ever met.

fast forward some time, I begin to tell him my lost interest in this male-dom/female-sub dynamic and begin to expose him to the more “high-protocol” styles of femdom as well as the more, racier sides of FemDom. and to my surprise, he found himself just as interested. He found himself enjoying the nurturing aspects, as well as the control over his life and his future., and of course the aspects that my pleasure was to come before his always. Slowly but surely we started developing this dynamic, and 6 years ago, on February 19th, 2018, we finally decided that this was our life now. That he belongs to me. That he is my partner, my submissive, my clean-up crew, my toy, just all over, MINE.

From that point forward, he has advanced in his career, he has found himself properly working on his own mental and physical health, he has made it a point for me to ask for, need or want for nothing because that’s what I deserve. Anyone who asks will express the benefits of having me here to control and manage his life, because, without me, he knows he would’ve been far less of a successful and happy man without me.

And I find that the story with most men is, without your girlfriend, your wife, your partner, you would be a failure. Without this superior being controlling, watching and managing you, you would be just… kind of a waste. And with that thought only, Female-Lef relationships are the only relationships that make sense. One where you know your place, and you put that woman on the throne like she deserves and live happily ever after.

FLr is the future, it’s time to start training now.